May 12, 2015
Loneliness is a state of mind. You can be in a room full of people or at home with family and feel lonely. On the other hand, you can be at home by yourself and enjoy your alone time. What makes the difference is the thoughts that you entertain in each situation. If you entertain past thoughts of rejection, by others or family members, when you are surrounded by them, you will no doubt, feel lonely.
What you may not realize at times like these, however, is that when you entertain thoughts of rejection, you don’t look approachable. As such, the people that surround you will not feel comfortable approaching you and will prefer to avoid you. Conversely, if you find a way to appreciate being surrounded by family members or strangers, you will look relaxed and approachable and you will experience a sense of acceptance by those who surround you. If you feel accepted, you will not feel lonely.
This is also true with spending some alone time. When you appreciate having some time for yourself, you feel at peace and you enjoy your time as much or better than if you were surrounded by people. The reason? You feel a sense of acceptance. By who? By you. When you accept who you are, you feel comfortable with yourself and you experience a sense of peace and satisfaction. As such, you do not feel lonely.
This state of mind is rooted in your ability to accept who you are and to respect yourself. If you do not have a sense of self-respect and refuse to accept the person that you have become, you will feel lonely. Feel proud of who you are and you will enjoy some alone time.
Unfortunately, no one can force you to accept or respect who you are. This is something that you need to and must do for yourself.