March 31, 2014
Have you ever spent a lot of time thinking about those who did harm to you? Whether the harm was physical or emotional, if you are feeling sad and depressed about it, the best thing you can do is forgive. Only when you truly forgive can you then experience a sense of peace. This does not mean that you have to go out of your way to let those who hurt you know that you forgive them. If you forgive with your heart and soul in your thoughts you will achieve that sense of understanding that perhaps you are not forgiving them but you are actually forgiving yourself for letting them hurt you. As I have said before, when we feel sad and depressed, often what we are really doing is experiencing anger towards ourselves. For whatever reason, we may feel that if someone took advantage of us or hurt us it happened because we let them even if that is absolute nonsense.
As such, the best thing you can do, if you are really depressed or sad about it is to search your soul and see whether that sense of anger/guilt/sadness that you are experiencing is actually coming from what happened to you or from blaming yourself. If you are blaming yourself, forgive. Forgive yourself and accept the fact that regardless of how much you think you are a superhero, you can’t always control what will happen to you. If everyone could do that, no one in this world would get hurt of be taken advantage of. Chances are that if anyone else had been in your shoes the outcome would have been the same. However, what could differ is the amount of responsibility that they would have put on themselves. Many people that have been victimized become truly angry at the perpetrator and take real constructive action. Others will become angry at themselves and feel so helpless that they can’t take any action. Becoming truly angry at the perpetrator is healthy. Becoming angry at yourself is not and it is the reason you need to forgive.If you can forgive, you can let go.